When grown men act like little boys. Tantrums, meltdowns and more
There is nothing sexy or glorious about being a “peacemaker.” For me, it was a way to be in control. And now I know, it was how I thought I controlled other people and outcomes. One side confides in me, I am trusted. The “other side” confides in me, I am confused. I am unsure who to be loyal to, I don’t want to tell any secrets, in the end I think I can manipulate people to do what I want them to do-get along, the way I think they should.
All the while, I am over my head, overwhelmed, bitter.
I drank. It was always a good excuse. It was my only escape from a situation that was never mine to fix. None of my business.
Death by Text
I work with people that SUCK at communicating with one another. I have been told that I “over communicate.” I am talkative, that is true. Since my recovery began a few years ago, I have been very clear on boundaries. Honest even when it is inconvenient. What is evident is, these people don’t want to communicate and have their own resentments toward one another.
Today, there was a situation that demonstrated the most pathetic, childish behavior I have seen in the workplace- ever. If these two people were actually in the same room together (it either wouldn’t have happened in the first place), it might have come to blows. We work in a virtual work environment so most communication is done in online office environments, emails and text messages-conference calls as a “last resort” it seems.
Grateful I Have a Program
I cannot say for sure, but I believe these men are non-alcoholic. One doesn’t drink at all, the other not very much (that I know of.) Today, I refused to get involved in the volley of high tempered insults and left the conversation and situation. I had a Funeral to attend a little later on and decided to leave “work” early. This was not about me.
Other People’s Happiness Is Not Up to ME
I would love to say this argument won’t have long lasting effects on our company. I don’t know what is going to happen next. I have to surrender and put this “peacemaking” job up to my Higher Power, because only HP knows the plan.
Thanks for reading. I always feel better after I get these thoughts out of my head.
*thank you Pinterest for the image